Holy Spirit Infused Relationships {VOTD}

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law (Gal. 5:22-23, NKJV).

If we were to be honest with each other, we could say relationships are not easy. Sometimes, they can be the hardest aspect of our lives. Everything can be going along fairly well one day, until we have a conversation. A conversation we could spend years trying to forgive ourselves for. Or maybe, just a conversation that might wreck our day.

Lack of Fruit

In Romans 6:21, we are reminded that our sinful nature won’t produce good results. “But what good did you receive from the things you did? All you have to show for them is your shame, and they lead to death.”

We all can testify with our own stories of experiences, that. . . we don’t receive good things from our shame. Our shame filled words or actions have costed us something.

These kind of broken hearted relationships and conversations haven’t produced things like kindness, self control, or goodness.

We have good news. God can produce in our lives these very good things we crave. What we lack, God alone can provide!

God Directed

The Holy Spirit is in full control, able to direct our hearts, and give us these good gifts.

Even if these things aren’t on our “to do” list, it is on our great God’s. Because even in the worst of circumstances, God is always filled with the fruit of the Spirit in overwhelming quantities. These are very essence of who God is.

Loving Like Our King

Through being connected, we become more like Him. While it isn’t an instant process, it is surely one worth praying and waiting for. Let’s draw nearer to the Lord through opening our Bible, praying for our relationships, and seek more of Him.

As Christians we aren’t perfect, but the God we serve is! We are clothed in His righteousness, as we accept what our Savior Jesus has done for us. We are forever changed!

Through our Savior Jesus Christ, we “belong to Him who was raised from the dead in order that we may bear fruit for God (7:4).”

Friends, we have been radically changed by our gracious God who has given up everything for us. He wants to help us in our relationships. Let’s give Him access to these sometimes hard places.

. . . “For those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on the things of the Spirit (8:5).”

The Difference Maker

The difference in our relationships doesn’t come from us, but the One we have fixed our eyes upon. Through God and His Holy Spirit, our relationships can be different. Because of our great Savior, we can see a radical difference (see Galatians 5).

Because of Jesus, we can love those He has placed in our lives. Remember, “we love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19).”

How has the Holy Spirit helped you in your conversations and relationships?


Image by Ben Rosett.


December Goals

It is a little late, but “better late than never”.

Do {Daily}

  • Continue to work on choosing allergy free vegetarian dishes.
  • Exercise, while listening to limitations.
  • Keep reading and studying the Word of God (Bible).
  • Welcome silence, to create a prayerful environment.


This month, my heart’s goal is set on Titus. I need to learn and apply Titus 2:5.

In the book of Titus, we are reminded of God’s greatness and how He wants us to live out our faith in our lives (see 2:3-5).

For this month, I want to lean on the Lord and learn how to serve within the walls of my family’s home. This is done as I keep up on housework (dishes, laundry, picking up, decluttering) – trying to give God my best in this area.

“These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God (Titus 2:4-5, NLT).”


My hope is to keep reading each day. While I have many books to choose from, I am going to limit my goal to a few specific books.

  • In the Middle of the Mess (Sheila Walsh)
  • Loved Baby (Sarah Philpott)
  • Connected (Erin Davis)

Also, I want to keep reading and soaking up the truths from the book of Psalms.


If there was one word for this month, it would be “effective”. I want my life to count. Through eating better, exercising, and trying to stay focused on the Lord by living out His Word, I want to make a difference in my health, family, and life.

Dear friend, what are some of the things you hope to focus on doing or being for the month of December?

Image by Tim Gouw.

In Christ,


A Day at the Hospital {The Prayer Offering}

Last night, I wrote about the goal in trials. My goal, during hard times, is to remember I am a daughter of the Most High God and allow this crucial identity to shape my thoughts, words, and actions.

Today, I was given the opportunity to put this into practice. I had an appointment at the county hospital. Things went right. Things went wrong. But, the biggest achievement? It was simply remaining as quiet as possible, as Trigeminal Neuralgia talked to Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome.

As long as I stay quieter on the rough days, I can avoid saying things that might hurt, rather than help, someone. My ability to control the kind of words – becomes harder, as the symptoms become more intense. The temptation to use hurtful words is definitely there.

The Heart-Felt Prayer

Today was a day of praying for God’s peace and presence. In my life, I have little control over how I feel on a given day (with the exception of my attitude).

What I can do is control how I respond to trials. So I responded, by “trying” to stay quiet. This was both easy and difficult. It was easy, until the moment of leaving the hospital to go home. Then, the overwhelming symptoms and impatience kicked into gear.

The good news is – I survived my long hospital day. I am preparing to have surgery in about 1.5 weeks. We had appointments scheduled for today and Friday, but by God’s grace and faithful prayers of others – I was able to get it all done today.

What We Need

The truth is. . . We need to pray over our souls for His peace and presence. This is what we need more than anything.

We can survive many things, but only with Jesus Christ leading the way. I don’t know about you, but nothing soothes my anxiety quite like the peace and presence of our great Savior, King Jesus, can.

If you are finding yourself in a rough spot tonight, begin praying over your souls for His peace and presence to overwhelm you. When we are overwhelmed by God, His presence, and unimaginable peace, we are in the best place possible to overcome our trials. They will not overcome us, but we will be able to overwhelm them with our relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

Lord Jesus, overwhelm our souls with Your peace and presence. We live in a difficult world. You remind us in John 16:33 that we will face troubles in this life, but You offer to us a peace that is nothing like this world’s. Overwhelm us with Your peace and presence. Thank You, Lord! Amen.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:6-7, TLB).

I have told you all this so that you will have peace of heart and mind. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up, for I have overcome the world (John 16:33).

Until next time,



Walk in Silence in Trials

Trials on a Tuesday is a weekly series that focuses on a topic relating to trials, and how we can glorify God in the midst of hard times.

To walk in silence. Part of me thinks, “This is my gift to the world.” If I am particularly moody or uneasy in my circumstances, my trials, you might think so too. It goes with our theme of defining complaining and weaving ways to live for (and please) Jesus, our great Savior.

Scripture reminds us to “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you (Phil. 4:8-9, NIV).

Before the silence comes, it begins in our hearts. It’s probably easier for me to stay silent when I am having a bad day, because I am used to not talking all that much. But to walk in silence, is a gift…

I see, walking in silence, as a gift.

I want to protect those around me, from being affected by the poisoning of my spirit due to circumstances. My mood is a reaction to my circumstances. It is a deeper issue than just not talking (or talking about it). It is a matter of my spirit. A matter of your spirit.

In 1 Peter 3, we are reminded about the truth of having a quiet spirit. A quiet spirit is something to appreciate. In our loud world and even louder circumstances, we can have a great deal of trouble being quiet. We tend to shout loud about our circumstances, or remain the most quiet about them.

With technology advances and social media, a status-of-a-venting-nature is at our fingertips.

The lies we can tell ourselves about vent status are there, but His Word needs to be greater. In the book of Proverbs, we learn a lot about the power of our words.

To walk in silence is more than not speaking certain things. It is choosing to remain self-controlled in our circumstances. Regardless of how hard our struggle, God can help us to choose our words wisely and teach us when to stay silent.

Knowing walking is silent is a matter of our spirit, we need to consider the words we speak. We need to consider how self-controlled we are, in the midst of our circumstances. Walking in silence is not choosing to never speak about what we face. It is only learning to speak in a self-controlled and God-glorifying manner.


Have you noticed your tendency to stay quiet or speak loudly about your circumstances? Which category do you fall into? How can you speak in a more self-controlled way this week? May we pursue Jesus Christ, and the balance He desires to give us.

Stay tuned! – Stacey


Keeping Up Appearances

It is a topic I am mindful of quite often. Our world endorses masks, and pretending we are fine despite reality. The Pharisees and other religious leaders wore a different kind of mask, but it remained profitless. Their mask made them look very good, but their hearts were “white-washed tombs”. Spiritually dead.

How about us? What kind of masks do we wear, and what are we hiding from others?

  • Physical illness.
  • Depression.
  • Anxiety.
  • Fear.
  • Grief of some sort.
  • Reputation

These are just a few of the reasons we can wear masks. Others may not see we wear a mask, but God does. God knows our hearts.

But the Lord said to Samuel,
“Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him.
The Lord does not look at the things people look at.
People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
-1 Samuel 7:16

We can observe, and even make our own masked appearances. Appearing to be someone we aren’t. Maybe hiding, to keep others around. Maybe, masking our appearances and well-being for a different reason. Truth is, keeping a mask won’t profit much of anything. Not to mention, it is exhausting to carry the mask around. It’s heavy and a burden we don’t need to add to our lives. Only a few choices concerning our own masks:

  1. Keep walking around like the walking dead, pretending to be someone else.
  2. Keep everyone at a distance.
  3. Lastly, set boundaries in place for the how and when to share.

In Proverbs, self-control is described as a city’s gates. To prevent destruction, the city’s gates must stay in place. There is wisdom in keeping boundaries in our own lives. We need to know how to honestly share with others, without entrusting our heartfelt situations to the wrong people. Who can we honestly share what is going on in our lives? Who will be there for us to offer prayer and practical help?

When new people come into our lives, we have new possibilities. We can:

  • Pretend everything is fine.
  • Be open to being vulnerable.

What happens when we choose that second option—this one is a deliberate act that will have rough days. We make the choice to allow God to be glorified in the situation, as we testify to His great power and how He is choosing to work in our lives!

See Matthew 23:1-13; Proverbs 25:28