One thing I have noticed is, the way depression creeps in – when one battles a (or multiple) chronic invisible illness(es). Depression creeps in. The invisible illness may not mean you have an arm cast on your right arm, but its effects become evident. When the one you love faces an invisible illness, you begin to notice its effects.
For me, the really-bad-health-days are where I most notice that I am changing. I have defined it as, “wasting away” in a shear depression state. The things I used to care about and love, begin to dwindle.
The Changes We Face
It is a part of the invisible illness.
It is a part of the F-I-G-H-T!
The changes in mentality are one of the fights we face, when we come face-to-face with invisible illnesses. It is as much part of the struggle as the invisible illness(es) themselves.
Realization of this is the first step.
When we take notice that the one we love (or we ourselves) change as part of invisible illness, we can work on becoming what our loved ones need. It may be a shoulder to cry on, keeping in contact with them (and reassuring them that we care), and finding ways to minister to them.
For those reading this, who face a chronic invisible illness, our first step in receive the care we need – is speaking up. Let the world in, on your struggle. It may be texting a friend to let them know, “I am not doing alright right now.”
Reaching Out for Support
Finding the support we need is more important than our pride.
The hard part about speaking up about how I am doing, is the wondering about rejection. Will my plea for help be heard? Will I have to gather the strength to speak up louder?
Keep crying out, and being there for one another.
We are not alone in our affliction.
We have help.
If you don’t have support, feel free to email me (firstname.lastname@example.org).
Stay strong, by just keep letting your cry be known. Also, listening to the cries of those around you.
My Definition of True Emotional Support
I have looked to this Scripture before.
One of my favorite Bible passages on gathering the necessary strength from a God-seeking-community is found in Exodus 17. May God use this to reach you to do two things: (A) Ask for help (B) Be ready to offer help, even when they haven’t gotten up the courage to ask.
“As long as Moses held up the staff in his hand, the Israelites had the advantage. But whenever he dropped his hand, the Amalekites gained the advantage.Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset (vv. 11-12, NLT, emphasis mine).”